To start overcoming your fears, we first have to redefine fear. Sounds a little ambitious, I know. The fear most of us know is what the dictionary defines as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
This kind of fear can often be warranted, and can serve to help protect us when we need it. But the fear I want to talk about is the fear of failure. This kind of fear is often confused for the fear we defined a moment ago, but its different.
The kind of fear that creeps in uninvited and tries to talk you out of believing in yourself. This fear is like a thief that tries to steal your confidence and success. But its ok, we all experience this at one point or another, and you, as strong, incredible women, already have the tools and power you need to tell this fear thief to take a hike!
One of the best ways to overcome the fear of failure, is to embrace it. Why? Because everyone fails at something, and that’s ok. Life would be pretty boring if we succeeded at everything we did all the time, the most valuable learning often comes from when we try something, put it all out there, and it doesn’t work. This can help reaffirm our passion for achieving what we’re working towards and help us get a better result the next time. The most important thing is to remember that when you try something and it doesn’t work, it only means that thing failed, not you. You were trying something new, and you’ll take the result and be a stronger, more awesome version of you for having had the experience.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave one is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
Another great tool for overcoming fear is visualization. Because visualization involves closing your eyes, make sure you are in a safe, comfortable spot. To get started, close your eyes, and imagine your fear as a ball of glowing orange light hovering in front of you. As you slowly take a deep breath in, feel yourself fill with positive energy, and as you exhale, feel all the negative energy leave you. Continue to breathe in and out for several moments, as you do this notice that glowing orange ball of light is getting smaller and smaller. Continue until the ball of light has disappeared completely. Take 2 more breaths in and out and open your eyes feeling empowered, motivated and re-energized. You can use this exercise daily to help find balance, boost your inner strength.
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